A bouquet of flowers on a random Tuesday...a love note under a pillow for no reason other than the sender really feels the words written...good dinner and pleasant conversation in a nice restaurant after a hectic day full of pressure...a compliment just because...expressing love at the moment that one is FEELING the emotion...these things are precious and sincere. So why is it that we save these things for one day a year? It seems like it becomes a chore and loses it's authenticity when we do so.I'm not one to hate Valentine's Day. Even when I was single and without a special someone and the day would roll around...I never hated it...but many people do. I had a conversation with a man I was training at the gym on Friday when I was telling him about my plans for Valentine's Day with my husband.
HIM: "I hate Valentine's Day. After three years together, my fiance is finally getting used to me not doing anything..."
ME: "I know...I DO find it dumb that we have a day where we are all under pressure to give gifts nd shower each other with affirmations of our love. It almost doesn't seem authentic...like why do we have to do something every year on the same day...something that we should be doing..."
HIM: "...(interrupting) We should be doing it EVERY day!...not just once a year!"
After our conversation, I got to thinking about this. I wondered, "Why is it that we feel the need to help those less fortunate at Christmas? Why do we feel compelled to want to feed the homeless on Thanksgiving? Why do we give gifts and affirm our love on Valentine's Day? Why do holidays bring out the desire to do things that we should already be doing? Why is it human nature to be stingy with compliments? Why can't we just say it? do it? Why can't we train ourselves to be more giving in every way...all the time?"
HIM: "I hate Valentine's Day. After three years together, my fiance is finally getting used to me not doing anything..."
ME: "I know...I DO find it dumb that we have a day where we are all under pressure to give gifts nd shower each other with affirmations of our love. It almost doesn't seem authentic...like why do we have to do something every year on the same day...something that we should be doing..."
HIM: "...(interrupting) We should be doing it EVERY day!...not just once a year!"
After our conversation, I got to thinking about this. I wondered, "Why is it that we feel the need to help those less fortunate at Christmas? Why do we feel compelled to want to feed the homeless on Thanksgiving? Why do we give gifts and affirm our love on Valentine's Day? Why do holidays bring out the desire to do things that we should already be doing? Why is it human nature to be stingy with compliments? Why can't we just say it? do it? Why can't we train ourselves to be more giving in every way...all the time?"
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